Flash Forward Friday

To only wipe myse

Here I sit dreaming about my future with Flash Forward Friday.
This weeks dream is about a day when I don’t have a small child screaming “I’m done”. This is the finale as they anticipate my arrival to wipe away left over fecal matter. I’ve been on a trip away from my loving boys for a little while now and I miss them horribly. However, this is one duty I’m not eager to get back too. My nails have grown beautifully and my hands have become smooth while my time away has allowed for less hand washing and household chores.
I used to dream about a day without diaper changing being an almost hourly task. I just never thought that poop removal would still be something I’d handle well after all the diapers were removed from our household. I always question parents with older children on when their offspring began wiping themselves. Answers always vary since boys seem to be less enthused at accomplishing this on their own at any given age. Don’t get me wrong, some girls have no issue allowing this task to be handled but most seem to become much more independent in this area prior to boys. Possibly because, as females, we have to get used to wiping at every potty break whereas males clearly have an easier time ignoring the issue to wipe consistently.
I’ve put my adoring husband in charge of teaching wiping techniques to our boys and he says he has done so sufficiently with our now 6 year old. However, smells tell otherwise.

Since we are on the topic of bathrooms habits and what the future holds, let’s discuss hand washing. Is this something kids grasp at some point? I mean, I have to remind my own husband to wash his hands when he is making a meal or after he leaves the bathroom. His routine reply is “I didn’t get pee on my hands.” Right, but you’ve touched the toilet handle, door handle and body extremities!  Plus lets point out the fact that you’re 30 years old and need to come to terms that as an adult, washing hands is appropriate.
Maybe this Flash Forward Friday dream is truly that….a dream. I might need to come to the realization that my boys will follow along with their dad and I will be the hand washing reminder, poop sniff checking mother well into when they leave home with families of their own.
So I ask you now friends, did you wash your hands?
originally published July 15, 2016
Flash Forward Friday

Birthday Debacle

Having kids 2 days shy of exactly two years apart was a bad idea for many reasons. The main one was that I lost my sanity those first few years. I have realized after this weeks birthday festivities, they just turned 4 and 6, that separate birthday by 2 days won’t work anymore. The violence and outward showing of emotions was extreme depending on who’s birthday we currently were not celebrating. I need to know how and when this will get better. For #flashforwardfriday I decided I’d dream about the future birthdays and how this issue will be best contained.
I need your help now by letting me know how you have or would deal with this scenario. Separate birthdays and just deal with the meltdowns? Same birthday celebrations? Or lie about the exact date of one of their true birthdays for awhile? Comment, let me know.
originally published June 17, 2016
Flash Forward Friday

Rides in Wheelchairs

#flashforwardfriday is the newest blog category for Beyond Birth Doula. When did we all stop saying “when I grow up I’m going to…..”? I’m not sure what age it that is, however I’ve decided that I will bring it back and make it a positive viewpoint to have. Instead of focusing on the aging process lets think of the benefits we gather as we age gracefully. The video explains how this #flashforwardfriday came about and my current idea of what I’m looking forward too.
Join me and give your idea of a positive #flashforwardfriday idea.
originally published April29,2016